Sunday, January 18, 2015

Dear Christian Bloggers: There is a Difference between being Convicted and Controversial

(I recently read an article/post written by a pastor about what kind of woman a husband should NOT marry.  I joked that it was a good thing that my husband read it after 12 years we have been married and not before we got married because I was some of the women he described on the list.  He instructed men to not marry all sorts of women.  One type was a traveler which is a character trait I believe God has given me.  I love to explore and to meet and see different people and parts of the world.  So instead of "just" being furious I decided to write a letter to some of the Christian bloggers I have been seeing go viral lately. I hope, blogger friends, while you are sitting and "ohhhhh and awwwing" over your blog analytics you can take a second to read this and perhaps understand my perspective. I feel writers like the above mentioned post turn people away from the Lord, and that is a sad thing for me to watch.)

I am a Christian.  I was raised in a Christian home by 2 Christian God following parents. I have a personal relationship with Jesus but I am also a blogger.  So therefore.....that makes me a Christian blogger.  I don't write much about my Christian values.  I don't feel it is "my calling."  I hope to be an online social example of who Christ wants us to be. People see this and ask questions. These are the conversations I hold dear. 


The word is a broken place.  I see fear and imperfect humans on and offline.  But just because I see people do things in what I view as wrong does not make me want to write what I believe.  Sometimes, It is not my place to say.  However, in some cases (like for this topic) I will make an exception, after thoughtful prayer in my heart.

◄ Proverbs 16:24 ► Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Ever heard that verse? What ever you say online shouldn't our key strikes be like the pouring of honey onto the internet?  Please sing sweet words online.  You can be convicted and write a blog post without being a jerk.  It is possible to explain why you believe something with a gentle spirit and not a bossy one. Instead of guilt shaming those that may live a different life than you.....explain how that life has been made you a better you and a better walk with Christ.  Write about Christ in your marriage, and in your own personal role as a Human.  Want to be authentic? Be an example.  Be a soft place to land on the internet.  Perhaps speak from experience instead of ridicule.  Imagine the hearts you could reach by being a caring example and not a shaming startling place that will make a person feel less than they are and hold them back from what God created them to be.  Let God use your words.  Do not let your words stop God from speaking to your readers because YOUR hurtful words were too brutal to digest.

Don't be traffic driven. Traffic brings in the income of bloggers but do we want to sacrifice traffic in exchange for being a tool used to heal a hurting heart? What is more important? Many of us can tell your intent in your words. We can tell tone or assume tone.  Many can tell your anger and lecturing voice.  Don't be "that" blogger.  Be a shinning light on the internet.  Your light can shine brightly online if you allow it. In these days, the internet needs a lot more honey and a lot less lecturing.  Let God mold hearts. You aren't the potter.   

◄ Ecclesiastes 3:1 ► There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens........

 Just because you see someone doing something wrong in their life doesn't mean it is ALWAYS your place to say.  Just because you see a hot topic doesn't mean it is time to write. Be the blogger who listens to their readers.  Be the blogger that prays for their readers.  Be the blogger that tells a story of their love for Jesus and is an example.  Not everything is meant or appropriate to be said online that goes on between you and God. Let others be on a journey with God.  You aren't his only ambassador.  Be the one that is approachable via email or telephone.  Encourage your readers to find Christian friends. Ready for a post to go viral about your Christian faith?  Be prepared to be a voice on and offline. Got something you want to say?  Don't hide behind a computer.  If you have prayed over a post and feel the Lord is directing your words.....  Let The Lord speak through you.  Please.  This I beg you.  Your blog is not the Bible.  Encourage others to dive into the word of God and have a relationship with him.  Spirituality is an important and personal thing. Think through before you intervene on what God is working on in their life.

You do not uphold the final call.

Do you believe God makes the final call in our lives?  Stop acting like it is you.  Feeling convicted to talk about a certain topic.  Write with tender words.  We are Christians.  We are supposed to stand out and be different.  Kindness, Jesus' Love, and light should separate us. We do not need controversial topics to drive up our analytics, right?  I answer to God not Google.

Dear Christian Bloggers: There is a Difference between being Convicted and Controversial. You can be convicted about a topic that is controversial but the controversy that causes the conversation about Christian topics should be an internal one.  You can start that internal thought process in your reader's mind but you should not scream it into their ear.   Live by example.  Jesus doesn't need a PR Agent or a spokesperson.  He has wrote the ultimate book of love not you.

◄ Matthew 5:14 ► You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.

 The internet now has hills and valleys. Where will your blog stand?  No matter how long you have been a Christian, how long you have been blogging, what degrees you hold, or who you think you are as and I are not the ultimate author! This is a truth. 

 (Being a Christian is hard and what we say will not always be popular but how we say it can make all of the difference. Being a Christian is hard but what God is convicting us to believe is not always meant to be written)

Friday, January 2, 2015

2014 in Review

January started off with a splash.  We went swimming in a pool in wildwood.  We decided New Year's Day is a family day to be together.  We took lots of pictures.

John and Beth volunteered at Alex's Lemon Ball.  It was very......yellow.  We were happy to give time.

Jp and Mom flew to San Francisco. (Boy did our arms get tired) We met a sea creature named Ziggy. We promised to see her again and help her in her new home.  We hung with family.  We will forever be thankful for this time.  We explored vegetarian food and thrift stores.  We listened to groovy music in a record store. Jp just wanted to by rap music.  Mom said no. :) We ate the best Mexican food Jp can ever remember. 

In Feb Aunt Olivia planned the Little Mermaid party of the century.  It was amazing.   We drove down to Florida to stay in Cape Coral.  Mom and Zoey flew back to help donate food to the Washington DC food bank.  Mom and Zoey took a train ride back to NJ.  Dad and the boys drove back from Florida and stopped for a phillies spring training game on the way.  After being home for 2 days Zoey and Beth returned to Florida to Disney to explore Disney with a Baby. #DisneyKids Grace came with us.  We love her very much. 

We came home.  We enjoyed home. We told the world all about life in Nj.

All of us flew to California to Disneyland for #DSMM.  We had an amazing time.  We ate in and out burger. We lost Nolan during the fireworks.  It was awful.  Then we found him. Disney handled a frantic mom fantastically.  In the end Nolan was just with "his" DSMM friends. :) Gray hair! Needed hair appt after that. 

Beth told the world she was sick.

We went to Mystic Aquarium for Oceans day and kept our promise to see Ziggy Star.  This time we took some online home school friends with the Edvacation Network. 

John and Beth renewed vows.  It was the one of the most beautiful days of our lives.  It meant so much. Words can not describe. No. Words.

Following day Gen got married.  Beautiful wedding.  Kids still talk about how they loved dancing.  They loved celebrating.  Watch out word......Zoey has moves.  We love Gen. 

Our kitchen got finally finished. Our water heater broke again.  Dan fixed it this time. #awesomefriendswehave

A dog caught a chicken.  It wasn't pretty.

We spent a summer enjoying Moreys Piers. Tenis Lessons with great friends were a highlight.  Joel was an awesome teacher! 

Nolan and Mom went on a trip to California. #typeaconf. They got to meet other family.  Nolan talks about them often.  Again thankful! 

Activation ReACT started.  Nonprofit leadership is alot of work. Activation day at DiggerlandUSA was amazing. Elizabeth felt so loved and is on fire to make a difference.

Beth got told she should rest and not work.  She didn't take it well. 

A something got another chicken.  We still aren't sure what that something was. We got given 6 more chickens which provided us food.  We are so thankful for them.  We look at them differently.  They give us a daily gift of breakfast as things got rough with mom not working. 

Ranger continues to test our patients.  

Mom got more weird news from the doctor. We are confused. 

We visited cousins in Baltimore. Mom drove the whole way there.  She was proud of herself.  The boys got to hang with more family.  The week following We lost a dear cousin from california. We cried alot. We got angry, mad, confused.  We still are.... 

We dressed up for Halloween.  Mom and Zoey got to be Minnie! It was fun! 

Beth was given a huge hug from friends near and far.  We will forever be thankful.  We cried tears of thanksgiving with who we have in our life.  We love and are loved very much. We will never know how to say thank you.

Jp became a star.  He was an orphan in the musical Oliver.  Nolan became a star.  He was Tiny Tim in Scrooge the Musical in Cape May.  Boys played a duet on piano.......Little drummer boy. They practiced around the clock. I can still hear the drumming. Christmas was busy.  Santa really does exist.  Though he looks alot like internet friends of mine. 

We decided we should go away for Christmas. Mom needed sun.  Florida was good to us.  In the last week of 2014 our dog Happy got internet famous. That was interesting. 

2015 I am not sure if we are ready for you but here we are.......